Cheating

08Jul07

Question: “Have you ever cheated or been cheated on? Why? How did it end? Did you leave? Stay? Ignore it? How do you feel about it now?”

Posted: www.craigslist.com in Atlanta, Denver, Washington DC, San Diego, and Aberdeen, GB.

(note: I soooo wish that more people frequented craigslist around the world, but so many cities’ craigslists are empty…. anyone who has suggestions for other online communities to post questions to, give me a shout. can’t voyeur on people’s secrets if there’s no one to ask!!)

Responses:

The worst mistake a person can do

In answer to your curious feelings. I am a 69 yr old male having been married twice, I cheated in both marriages,because not sexually fullfilled. It’s like living on the edge, wondering how long I could keep it up. Gave up first marriage to go into second onehoping it would be better. Surprise surprise it was not any better. At my age now I would do it all again. It is not the same not being married.This probably does help you much, but that is the way was.

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I was married for 7 years. She cheated on me and got pregnant doing it. She had an abortion. It was the most horrible thing I have ever been threw. We separated 2 yrs later and I found out she had been still doing it. I then lost my mind and cheated on her twice out of revenge. It was the worst decision I ever made.

We are divorcing now because our marriage is just the worst thing ever. It has been hard for me because I have always ask myself “Why did she do it?” She said it was for attention. I know there is nothing wrong with me or what I have, so I try to accept what she is saying. Some people really do have issues that make them do stupid shit. I had to deal with that. It is heartbreaking to love someone so much and have them treat you like shit because they have issues. It leaves you feeling like you are worthless. It eaves you empty and lonely. I am a strong man, but I never cried for someone so much as I did for her and our children. This was something that I ould do nothing about. Only she can face her problems and deal with them.

She is doing that, I hope. It hurts so bad to think someone you love is so messed up that they have to live a life that is a lie. They cheat because they are trying to find something they are missing or they are running from something they hate about themselves. After a while, they realize that they have messed things up so bad, that they leave you because they can’t face themselves anymore around you because you are a constant reminder of their awful past. You remind them of the low down things they do. That is what I was left with fro an answer.

Cheating is never worth it. I don’t care how good looking he is or how big his Johnson is, or how hot she is or how fine that ass looks. That small moment of pleasure is not worth the lifetime of regret. One should have the dignity to realize that if they want to have sex with other people, they should do what is right and leave the one they are with. If someone goes out looking for sex from strangers because they need attention, they are sick and should not be with anyone either. It is horrible to find out your are with someone who is a cheater, no matter what the reason. There is no valid reason for cheating.

Love feels like it is dead in this world today. What ever happened to love that came with honor and respect?

Well, I am single now and starting my life over. I spend the majority of my time alone because I just do not know what else to do right now. I feel like I have come threw a lot of bad stuff and I just exist these days. I spend a lot of time just thinking. I could always take to a new friend if you ever want to chat. I could always lend an ear because sometimes I sure could use one.

its fun at the time but as long ur discreet and ur partner too……im a cool fun outgoing guy if u wanna chat and mess around….oh im cute too lol…hit me up on my cell if u want…***-***-****….A

Explains why the divorce rate is over 50%.

My wife left me a year and a half ago. I have no idea if she cheated but her best friend was a major influence in her life and this woman loved to play around. So now I am jaded and do not trust women. I will get over it and will move on as everyone does.

Ok you are thinking about it. Other wise you would not have posted about it. Do not do

it . Iam 60 yrs old so I know . Why do you want to cheat.If things are not going well talk

about it.If not end it an start a new life an look for someone. If you cheat you will get caught sooner or later an Everbody will pay you will mess up 4 lives + kids. Do you want sex that bad. Think about it.

Yes – I have cheated before. Enjoyed every moment of it. I like pussy that I have never tasted or fucked before.

So you ask some very serious questions.

I wonder what your motivation is.

I have been cheated on. it is a humiliating experiance that effects every aspect of life.

I have talked to many cheaters and adulturers and have yet to fully understand the psyche

of the cheater. The reasons are varied.

In all of my discussions there is one person that has “gotten away” with it for an extended period.

She is unique in that her affair started in her late 30s and continues now into her 60s on a once a week

basis w/ the same man….her husbands friend.

Cheating is ridiculous! If you don’t feel comfortable with the one you’re currently with,you need to have the guts to let them know,reguardless of how they may feel about it. Some people cheatbecause of the denial they are in,and they’d be too scared to let their current lover know they don’t wanna be with them. If I wasn’t comfortable with the girl I’m with I wouldn’t cheat. I’d let her know. I’ve never cheated. Just to let you know,I’m a single male,and 27 yrs old.

I would if given the opportunity as there has been absolutely no

intimacy in over 16 years. I'm too old to consider divorce from a

financial and healthcare standpoint. I realize I'm taking quite a

risk, but as my daughter said, I'm living in hell.

Hello...
Yes...I have...and had a very positive experience.  In
fact, I'm in the process of looking for a "special
friend" again.  My last "special friend" was in MI,
and it ended, as planned, when I moved from MI to TN.
Would be happy to discuss more with you, answer
questions, give you hints/tips.  Feel free to write,
or meet me on Yahoo messenger. My screen name and

email are the same.  Best Wishes!!

time heals all when someone has been hurt by cheating…. for the record 90 of all men cheat period!!! and 50% of all women cheat…… so there you have it… sometimes it best to look the other way but easier said than done..

STATISTICAL SIDE NOTE: Since we’re arbitrarily making up percentages (although the following is pretty damn close to accurate) I’ve edited out the repeat assumptions in the responses:

50% state “you’re obviously thinking about it, or you wouldn’t ask….”

50% state “you’ve obviously been cheated on or you wouldn’t ask…”

SWM-28 I was cheated on by my girlfriend of 2 1/2 years around the Christmas of 05. Eventually I forgave her and we decided to try dating again. We broke up recently and it was because she began to have trust issues with me! Even tho I never did anything to betray her trust. After talking with a few friends, I have heard a number of stories that sound the same as mine. Apparently it has to do with the cheater believing that since they did it, it will happen to them.

Did it, regretted it.

yes i have cheated. have been cheaded on. not getting it at home so got gf now she cheated and it hurt, i didn’t cheat on the gf. so now i get it where i want it and don’t worry about any one. i love to eat pussy so if u r looking to cheat on your hubby then i would love to eat your pussy for you.

But… but… but… he might “cheaded” on me, too!! BWAHAHAHAAAAA

I just hate cheaters!

why cant some one have the balls to just say I’m not happy, or I want a brake, If he thought he would not get caught then leave him he will do it again. Why do’s woman stay with a cheater? Mike

Yes I’ve been cheated on. It wasn’t fun! but I stuck around for 5 years if you can believe that, duhhhh!!! I still miss him very much but why be with someone that can so easily be with someone else? I always ask myself why, what was wrong with me?

So what is your story? Did you cheat or were you cheated on?

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Hi Curious,

I am bryan .

Nice to meet you first of all if your thinking about cheating you should do it with me .just because i desire to please a woman till she is had enough orgasms and ready to filled up .

i have cheated .

sex some times very often and has to be a safe attraction but is very awsome .

the forbiden fruit is allways taste ful when you crave the taste of another .

the smell

the kiss

the passion

the disire to please and be pleased

it was wonderful i ve only done it once and i want to do it again real soon

so send me your pic ill send you mine

bryan

You are curious, I will be happy to answer your ad. Yes I have cheated and I cheated because there were things I was not getting from my partner. The only excuse I could come up with was I stop appealing to my partner sexually but did love her in other ways. The sexual attraction has disappeared and some of the affection toward her as well but I feel we were meant to stay together and we still are.

We have been together for a very long time and my history as a cheater has been with me for over 20 yrs and I am not proud of what I have done or am doing but its something that fulfills me from time to time.

I do not judge others in how there life style is or what they do and ask that they do not judge me in mine

and yes I guess you are asking why are you still with this person if you are not attracted to her, the only answer I have is it was meant for the long haul and we will see down the road what happens.

What I can say is I was the guilty party in my first marriage. Had an off and on affair for a couple plus years but never fully confession although I think my wife was very curious and wondered. She became ill a few years later and died but our marriage during her illness became quite strong and I am so glad I stayed in the marriage. Leaving her for the other person never was an option.

I remarried, and was cheated ON by my wife in my second marriage. We are now divorced. It hurt, and still hurts, me deeply.

One of the seven laws of the universe (as viewed by many spiritual healers, psychics, New Age spirituality practicioners) is the universal law of cause and effect. Or, what goes up comes down. Or what goes around comes around. Of course, we all think we are different, that we are immune to these things because our circumstances are different.

But that’s why it’s called a universal law, though. It applies equally to all. And, as I see it, it is the law and it is the truth.

Looking back on my life after all this, and having gained experience and some wisdom after all of this (I am 50 plus) in perspective, I do believe that we are punished not FOR our sins, but BY our sins, and that the affair and break up of my second marriage was a result of my unfaithfulness in the first.

This may seem like a harsh answer and I in no way could make any judgment of you either way. All I can share is my experience for myself. If I could make the choice again, I would NOT cheat on my spouse because the anxiety and the consequences of it were too great for the benefit gained.

I have cheated. When I was single I had been with 3 different married women and 1 engaged woman. Since being married I have been with 4 other women and only 1 was married. I’ve often scratched my head and wondered why.

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